Thursday, October 24, 2013

In Honor of Halloween, the Story of a Joy Filled Cemetery


I encountered a great deal of opportunity in my schools growing up.  There actually wasn’t a lot of it because they were so small, but because I changed schools so often, it felt like it. 

The trouble came once I moved back to the US.  I moved to an area that routinely produced super children, training from age 4 every season in one sport.  So when I tried out for a team and didn’t make it, I was crushed.  A friend invited me to cross country because there were no tryouts and you could not be cut, but I thought that was lame.  Who wanted to be on a team that never had cuts?

A whole year went by.  And while I played on a city team for another sport in the evenings, it wasn’t nearly as fulfilling as that sport had been at my prior school.  The reason, I figured out, was because they were all playing to be noticed for scholarships, rather than fun.  As competitive as I thought I was, I missed fun.

I also missed a closely knit team.  So I caved to Matt's request: at the start of the next school year I went to cross country practice.   I made a group of close friends, finally.  We ran where and when we were supposed to, but usually took detours through the local cemetery.  The highly motivated part of our team used it for fartlek training, which is how we discovered its existence.  But it was too good to be used only for whistle-blown intervals.

It was a beautiful haven, full of rolling beautifully tended hills and creeks, bridges, weeping willows.  Those trees listened to us Fab Five while we took extended stretching breaks and hotly debated Ayn Rand.  The willows probably weren’t weeping, but laughing as we discussed the meaning of life near those who had discovered it already, and had the hyphen to show it.

So while I had been frustrated with the lack of joy in most sports I personally encountered, I finally found my own.  Running empowered me to feel free, even partly rebellious.  We weren’t the best runners, so we were free from the pressure to excel.  We weren’t there to improve our time on other sports, so we were free from looking good.  

In fact I distinctly remember the coach showing everyone a video of what he termed the Olesen Sprint.  It was the 90s version of What Not to Wear, but he could have called it How Not to Run.  He had recorded me at the end of a race plodding along, and then in a split instant, choosing to haul it the last 200 meters.  He said I obviously saved up too much energy! After the howling laughter finished, I laughed, too: yup, I was indeed totally free from looking good.  All we had to do was enjoy the air and each other.  Our health, our friendships, our schooling all took care of themselves.  I happily left the winning to my Somalian classmate!

And here I am, twice the age I was then, and still running (and some will attest I still employ the Olesen Sprint).  I have had some extended “stretching” breaks, to be sure.  My running career (which I will call it, whether or not you know my name!) grew in its diversity of races, new running buddies, students I got to coach, battle buddies I got to encourage along the way.  If you can run one mile, you can run two.  If you can run two miles, you can run three…

It’s proving to be a lifelong sport.  And for that, I am glad I was freed from thinking only one way about sports, or who I am defined by one or the other.  I am glad for the frustration I felt in high school because it allowed me to blow my prejudices to bits. 

Most importantly, this freedom is not to keep for myself.  This life is not about my identity.  I started SLIMnasium to free others from thinking only one way about exercise.  I now enjoy helping my clients see that when we start to take care of our bodies, the rest falls into place.  We have been told to consider this body a gift, and to honor it for the Lord.  While for me that way has been running, biking, swimming and walking, I love finding what clicks for my clients. 

There is freedom in exercising for a joyful purpose!